Are you a shy person? Are you always worried about how to handle opponents?
Do you blame yourself after a conversation because you were not able to express your opinion? Yes? Then these suggestions are for you!
Whether you are chatting with a friend, or having a formal conversation with a colleague, you might find these 5 suggestions useful:
- DON’T PANIC.
This probably could have gone without saying. Take a deep breath and don’t feel intimidated if you feel that the person in front of you does not share your point of view. Breathe again and don’t be afraid!
- LISTEN BEFORE SPEAKING
It is easy to quickly judge the person in front of you. Allow yourself time to listen instead. The other person should be able to express his/her opinion. Don’t interrupt them! This tip will also give you time to think about your reply.
- ASK QUESTIONS
Again, since it is easy to make assumptions about someone else’s opinion, you should be careful! Asking questions is a good way to understand the reasons behind someone’s perspective. It will give you also extra time to reflect before speaking!
- TELL A STORY
Sometimes a mere “theoretical approach” can sound quite abstract. The other person might feel that you want to teach them something. This might create a divide between you both.
Instead, a good way to facilitate communication and to express your point might be through “story-telling”. A reflection on practical examples, whether of daily life or not, can be a more direct way to express yourself.
- HE/SHE IS A PERSON LIKE YOU!
Last but not least, never forget that on the other side there’s a PERSON like you. You might not share the same perspective on a variety of topics, but you must always speak with love, gentleness and kindness. In the end, you should behave as you wish others’ to behave towards you.