As a youngster, I spend more time than I would like scrolling through social media. Nevertheless, I proudly enjoy alternative content and ideas there. Among other international authors, one of my favorites is Rosa Pich-Aguilera.
Who is Rosa Pich?
Rosa is, in my own opinion, such an example of facing difficulties. Eighth of 16 siblings, she wanted to grow a large family. She married Jose María Postigo in 1989 and had 3 children within the first years. All of them passed away at a very young age due to heart disease. Doctors advised her not to have more children. However, Rosa is today a mother of another 15 children and she shares maternity related content in her blog and social media (mainly Instagram).
Her posts always bear a positive and friendly tone. Sometimes it can be shocking how to adapt simple tasks like cooking dinner when there are so many people at home. If we go further, it can be even more outstanding since 2017, when Jose María passed away of liver cancer. Rosa kept on everything and has recently published a new book “Life is beautiful and more if you live in a family”.
All this story works as context for the post I came across last week. Since her Instagram account is such an active profile (over 1300 posts and 74000 followers), I always thought she must receive a lot of private messages., I also always believed it is almost impossible for her to have haters. Terrible mistake.
Hate on…
On the 6th of July, she published some of the messages she received in instagram inbox. All came from the same person: “how crazy are you”, “showing your kids and taking care of them”, “for your information, having so much children is irresponsible… and believing you are cool wearing those sh*tty clothes”…”No wonder that your husband died, son of a b*tch”. There are so many things wrong that it is hard to start at some point. Maybe, before giving my opinion we should take a look at hers. She uploaded a note about respecting others. She had no space for hate. She stated that there exists people who hate and will always do so. Most of the messages are not like these ones, but one has to keep going.
Maybe I would not have been so kind. Hating on somebody just because she is happy with her family and is proud of motherhood is wrong, sick even. Making fun of a woman for being a mother is the kind of attitude that makes women believe they will be unhappy if they have children. Attacking her for the way she dresses without knowing the sacrifices she may have made to bring food to the table stinks. It is not a matter of being religious or right-wing, it is just a matter of basic manners and respect for others. The last message is maybe the worst. How can someone write that down and consider it is ok to send it. It is possible some people’s minds are rotten and there is no turning back. Why has it become normal to demonize having children and enjoying it? Why should families remain calm when the society is constantly pounding on them? Why and when has it all changed and women are hated for being wife and mother? Why have the media and politicians ignored the debate on the decreasing birth rates across the Western World? And last, why do we consent our own people to insult the values built everything we have now as a society?
Live a happy life, raise your kids in the best way you can and be proud of them, whatever others think. Kudos to Rosa!
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